The answer is simple. Ask your kids.
Open the conversation. I love asking my kids "how am I doing as your mom?" I've received great feedback, especially from my older two. Feedback that makes me laugh, and feedback that makes me cringe. I've made adjustments on how I parent my children because of this. And none of my 4 children are the same. That would be too easy. Tip, if you have more than one child don't ask them all at the same time. Maybe have them write down their answers. I think you'll receive more authentic answers individually this way. But before you ask the question, remind yourself, you are already wonderful. We grow and we learn.
A request I received from one of my children was that I should be silly more often. Yes, stings a bit, because I put laughter high on my list. At least this was a simple fix. At first, I wanted to defend myself. I wanted to explain the problem was they are often silly during times when it's inappropriate to be silly (like in a restaurant or a church pew). Instead, I kept the negative comment to myself, because most likely they already know this. So what I've done instead is encourage the silly, and added to the silly when the timing is appropriate for us to be silly.
This has not only been fun - but soulful! For all 6 of us. It's also another confirmation that humans, and their needs, are very simple. Amazing what we can learn from one another with just one question.