I'm hearing and seeing all the summer bucket lists being made. The summer supplies being purchased. The large Costco trips for summer snacks. I'm excited by all of it as I passionately look forward to Mom Camp. Not a camp for everyone, I understand... but for those still reading, let me tell you from 11 years of Mom Camp experience, how I survive and thrive through summer.
- Write down your goals for summer, goals as an individual and goals as a mother
- Write down ideas on how you can practice self-care to reach those goals this summer
Some examples of my goals would be to feel energized and balanced. Our children don't need a perfect Mom but I do know they want a happy Mom. I want them to see that all feelings are acceptable and it's what we do with these feelings that matter most.
To achieve these goals, and retain this all summer long, I have put a lot of thought into how I can reach my self-care needs to be the Mom my children need and deserve. What's interesting to me is this has changed with each summer. Maybe it's because my children's ages are changing, or maybe it's because my needs also change over time.
Here are just a few examples of self-care. I hope this will inspire you to think and plan accordingly on what might help you balance Mom Camp and Self Care Camp. For some people, these things need to be done alone and for others, they may get the same benefits of self-care doing them alongside their children. You do what fits your personal needs.
Physical - proper nutrition (this is how I survive), physical activity, sleep, water retention, cuddling...
Emotional - positive self-talk, read a book, turn your phone off, talk to a therapist...
Social - surrounding yourself with positive people/energy, inviting children along with their parents over for social interaction, start a meaningful conversation, chocolate (it can really fit into any category but might be safest here)...
Spiritual - meditation, finding purpose, prayer, time in nature, volunteering your time...
Creative - Ideas in this category are actually on the top of my list. Many of you may eliminate altogether, but I think it's a fun way to see how beautifully unique we each are. Get creative with a camera or a paintbrush or food, learn how to use a pottery wheel (a personal one for me), edit and print your photos.
After creating a list, sit down with your children and share. I recently mentioned at our last family meeting that I needed to work on my list. I wanted our children to hear this because I want to use this as a teaching moment that we all have unique needs and the benefit of self-care. We talked about how once you help yourself you can then help others. They were inspired and started their own lists.
How does a Mom find the time for this? Kids quiet time. Kids reading time. Bedtime. Child swap with friends. Just simply prioritize it. We will all be better for it. I promise.
Start asking your friends what their plans are for self-care this summer. Not just those choosing "camp mom". As always, I'd love to hear your ideas!
I shared the summer schedule we follow here if you missed it?